I Hate You But I Love You
So I got asked an interesting question today, that kind of got me thinking. Guys give girls so much crap sometimes...why do we put up with it? It took me a minute to come up with an understandable answer, although I'm beginning to wonder if there really IS an answer to that question. But this is what I said.
We put up with them because in some ways, we love them. We may regret it, but we do. We may not want to, but we do. Because guys aren't always jerks. Some of them we think are decent, then they turn in to jerks. And guys do have good sides to them, once in a while, just like girls do. Guys just tend to have more bad moments then most. But when they have those bad moments, it makes us remember the good ones, the ones where they were sweet and caring and cool and actually GAVE a damn...and we want more of that, but we don't know if they are capable of giving it anymore, or if we are capapble of giving it back. We wonder if either of us is even capable of loving. Or if we want to. We think because it never works out, why do people try so hard to get it in the first place. Then we remember all the times we actually did love the guys, and realize that that IS the reason we love...so we can have that. Because it means so much to us to have that, so much that we will go through all the pain and all the crap we get from them, just so we can have it.
But there are also times in our lives when we forget all that. We forget that guys can actually be decent people. Sometimes we forget that there even ARE decent people in the world. Because for me right now? Most (not all) people suck and should just....go die.
We put up with them because in some ways, we love them. We may regret it, but we do. We may not want to, but we do. Because guys aren't always jerks. Some of them we think are decent, then they turn in to jerks. And guys do have good sides to them, once in a while, just like girls do. Guys just tend to have more bad moments then most. But when they have those bad moments, it makes us remember the good ones, the ones where they were sweet and caring and cool and actually GAVE a damn...and we want more of that, but we don't know if they are capable of giving it anymore, or if we are capapble of giving it back. We wonder if either of us is even capable of loving. Or if we want to. We think because it never works out, why do people try so hard to get it in the first place. Then we remember all the times we actually did love the guys, and realize that that IS the reason we love...so we can have that. Because it means so much to us to have that, so much that we will go through all the pain and all the crap we get from them, just so we can have it.
But there are also times in our lives when we forget all that. We forget that guys can actually be decent people. Sometimes we forget that there even ARE decent people in the world. Because for me right now? Most (not all) people suck and should just....go die.
1 Comments:
Like I said the first time I read your answer, I like it. And that was a great question, lol.
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